Steadfastness In Deen

Islam with it’s beauty, purity and eloquence teaches us to lead a life of simplicity and how to require steadfastness. Steadfastness is a basic requirement for every sincere Mu’min who wants to follow the Straight Path with determination and understanding.

Today the Muslim Ummah faces a similar struggle to hold onto Islam due to the desires and temptations they are engulfed with, as well as the West openly attacking Islam and without any fear or opposition to their attacks they are distorting the image of Islam by associating it with violence, backwardness, oppression and so on. Thus, causing Islam to become something strange to the hearts and minds of many Muslims; the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said that there would come a time when:

“He who adheres to Islam will be like he who is holding a burning coal.”

Therefore, Muslims of today are in greater need of having means that aid them to remain steadfast in Islam than the Salaf did, and that the effort required to achieve steadfastness in these times is greater; this is due to the corruption of our times, and the weakness of Imaan. The high increase in the number of cases of Riddah, even among those who work for the sake of Islam, which terrifies all Muslims and makes them strive even harder to seek these means.

Steadfastness is one of the Deeds of the heart, which makes it all the more difficult to perform, as the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:

“The qalb (heart) of the son of Aadam fluctuates more easily than a pot containing boiling water can turn over.” [Ahmad & Al-Haakim]

The heart is like a feather that flips whenever the wind blows and changes from one position to another rapidly. Maintaining a steadfast heart in the face of the winds of desires and doubts requires means that are equivalent to the level of challenge.

It is part of ALLAH’S Mercy towards us that HE clarified to us, in HIS Book and through the words and life of HIS Beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) many means to remain steadfast in Islam:

Turning Towards The Qur’aan

The Qur’aan is a clear light of ALLAH and the book of guidance for a Muslim’s life. Whoever adheres to it, Almighty ALLAH will protect him; whoever follows it, ALLAH will save him; and whoever practice upon it’s beautiful teachings will be guided to the Straight Path, Subhaan-ALLAH!

ALLAH has stated that the reason why this Book Al-Qur’aan was revealed in stages was to help the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) to stand firm in His faith. In proving false doubt of the Kuffaar, He says, “And those who disbelieve say, ‘Why is not the Qur’aan revealed to him all at once?’ Thus (it is sent down in parts), that We may strengthen your heart thereby. And We have revealed it to you gradually, in stages. And no example to similitude do they bring (to oppose or to find fault in you or in this Qur’aan), but We reveal to you the truth (against that similitude or example), and the better explanation thereof.” [Al-Furqaan 25: 32-33]

Why is the Qur’aan such a source of strength?

1.  It instils faith in the heart, cleanses and purifies the soul by connecting it to ALLAH.

2.  It brings peace and tranquility to the heart of the believer, so he will not be tossed about by the winds of Fitnah; his heart will be content and enriched with the remembrance of ALLAH.

3.  It provides the Believer with the correct principles by which he can face the tough circumstances that he endures, as well as providing him with the appropriate criterion with which to weigh and judge matters.

4.  It refutes the false claims and suspicions that are stirred up by the enemies of Islaam and the hypocrites.

“The effect of the Aayah “… The tongue of the man they refer is foreign, while this (Qur’aan) is a clear Arabic tongue” [al-Nahl 16:103]. The Quraish claimed that Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) was taught by a human being and that He took the Qur’aan from a Roman carpenter in Makkah.”

Is the Qur’aan not the greatest source of help, strengthening the qalb (heart) of the Believer, removing doubts and silencing the voices of falsehood? Indeed, it is by ALLAH!

Beloved Reader! Be steadfast and upright upon the Deen of ALLAH at all times, for you do not know when you’ll meet the Angel of Death. Beware of him taking you while you are in a state of sin.

“O ALLAH! Who turns the hearts, keep our hearts steadfast upon YOUR Deen.” [Aameen]

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

Suffering From A Broken Heart

If you are suffering from broken heart syndrome give this a read. May ALLAH soothe your bruised hearts and may HIS remembrance comfort you and may HE bless you with someone who deserves a precious pearl like you, Aameen Thumma Aameen.

Love is a powerful, compelling emotion. It can make you laugh and it can make you cry. It can lift you up to the clouds and it can hurl you into an abyss. One of the dilemmas Muslims face, especially Muslim sisters, is the situation in which they get to know a prospective spouse and for some reason it does not work out.

This article is not discussing the fiqh behind getting to know your prospective spouse, as it is common for a couple to have a few “halaal” meetings and still fall deeply in love. Rather, this article deals with how to get over someone and moving on after the falling in love stage. After you have decided that this person is the one for you and then due to circumstances – be it parents, finances, etc., the two of you cannot get married. In’Shaa’ALLAH this article will be a guide on how to get over that person and move on with your life.

Step 1: Accepting ALLAH’S Qadr

This has got to be one of the toughest tests of qadr. Love muddles your mind and when all you see are the good characteristics of someone it is difficult to see why it is not working out, especially if this is your first real love. How can this brother who is practicing his Deen, has a nice beard, soft and caring be wrong for me? How can this sister who is attractive, fun and religious not be my perfect partner?

The key concept to remember here is: you do not know someone until you have lived with them for a substantial time. Even that person does not know what they are like and how they will react in certain situations. Just because you have these elated feelings of love does not necessarily mean this is the right person. Marriage is a struggle and people develop themselves and change with the experience. Only ALLAH knows your compatibility, only ALLAH knows what situations you will face and your reactions. Only ALLAH knows whether or not this marriage will bring you closer to HIM or distract you from the real purpose in life. It is only ALLAH who knows. Have trust in ALLAH that HE has made the right choice for you. For no matter how much this person claims their love for you or vice versa, know that no one can love you as much as ALLAH.

So firstly, make Du’a to ALLAH to ease your pain and help you be content with HIS qadr. The following is my favorite Hadith regarding qadr as it really fills you with the awe of ALLAH and HIS infinite wisdom.

“ALLAH TA’ALA said: ‘Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by being inflicted with poverty, and were I to enrich him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by wealth and affluence, and were I to deprive him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by good health, and were I to make him sick, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by disease and illness, and were I to make him healthy, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he who seeks worship by a certain act but I prevent that from him so that self-amazement does not enter his heart. Certainly, I run the affairs of MY slaves by MY Knowledge of what is in their hearts. Certainly, I am the All-Knower, All-Aware’.” [Tabaraani]

Step 2: Awareness of the love-drug syndrome

An interesting study was conducted comparing drug users to people who claimed to be “madly in love”. They found that brain scans showed people who are in the first stages of love and people who are high on cocaine have the same areas of the brain stimulated while looking at a picture of their “beloved”. In other words, being in the first stage of love is similar to being high on drugs! With drugs, you are not in love with the powder itself – you are in love with the feelings that it gives you.

Similarly, the thing that we love is the special attention, the butterflies in the stomach, the acknowledgment that someone cares about us in a special way, looks at us in a special way, thinks about us in a special way – the constant day dreaming about the future and daily scenarios. So it is not that this person is perfect, it is that this person allows us to feel all these emotions which are addictive. In reality we are not in love with the person, we are in love with Love itself.

Being in love with Love explains how some people overlook major faults in their prospective spouse. I knew a practicing sister who wanted to marry someone who had a drug and alcohol problem. This was because in both cases these “faults” were discovered during the first butterfly phase of love and not before. Al-Hamdulillah by the qadr of ALLAH the marriage did not take place, but it was due to circumstances, not because the sister had realized that they were not a suited match.

Awareness of this love-drug syndrome has two major benefits. Firstly, awareness is power and it breeds hope. Once you are aware that it is the feelings you are attached to, realize you can actually get them elsewhere.

These feelings are not specific to this one person; you will get these feelings with your new, more suitable prospective partner – the one that ALLAH will put into your life at the right time In’Shaa’ALLAH. Love clouds your mind and makes you think that you will not find this strong love and passion with anyone else. But this is simply not true. You will find this love to be even stronger and more passionate with the right person (the one that is written for you in the Lawh al Mahfooz).

The second benefit is knowing that just like a drug-user naturally has withdrawal symptoms when they stop, you too will naturally have withdrawal symptoms, and it will be difficult. Getting over someone is emotionally painful so don’t be too hard on yourself, validate your feelings and allow yourself time to heal. Know that this is common – nearly everyone goes through heartache at some point in their lives, and eventually recover with time.

As a side point: It is not a sin to fall in love; it is a natural emotion which the human species depends on! If you did sin in the process then repent to ALLAH, HE is the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. Love is a powerful emotion, which is why there are boundaries in Islam. If you have fallen outside those boundaries, repent and move on.

Step 3: Be Pro-active

Allow yourself time but also get proactive! Marriage is just one of the many aspects of your life; it is not the be all and end all of things. What are your aspirations? What do you want to achieve in your life? Write down a list of goals you want to achieve by the end of the month and get started on them right away. As Muslims, our continuous goal is striving to get closer to ALLAH, so working on your Imaan and your relationship with ALLAH must be included in some way. Focus your attention on moving forward rather than wasting time with something that “could have been”.

Step 4: Move on

In the spirit of being pro-active, the last stage is to actively open your heart and mind to someone else. This could be difficult, as naturally comparisons will creep in, but again realize the fact that it has not worked out means that ALLAH has someone better suited for you. As illustrated in the famous Hadith of the birds:

“If you depend on ALLAH with due reliance, HE would certainly give you provision as HE gives it the birds who go forth hungry in the morning and return with a full belly at dusk.” [At-Tirmidhi]

ALLAH will provide for you but you have to get up and get moving again. Just like the birds, go out and seek. Make the effort on your part and leave the rest to ALLAH and HIS infinite wisdom.

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

Aspiring Towards Living The Legacy

Islam places responsibilities on the shoulders of every individual; no one person is left out. Parents – especially mothers – are made responsible for providing. Their children with a solid upbringing and sound Islamic education, based on the noble characteristics that the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) declared that He had been sent to complete and spread among people:

“I have only been sent to make righteous behaviour complete.”

O beloved sister in Islam! What prevent us from giving our beautiful children himmah, i.e. aspiration and determination to the Commandments of ALLAH? If we have himmah we are guaranteed success from ALLAH TA’ALA in this world and the Hereafter, Subhaan-ALLAH! What prevents us from teaching them to be the Ansaar of ALLAH TA’ALA, and knowing that love of the people of this Deen is from Imaan. And anyone who give victory to this Deen, love them. We do dearest sister! We are the examples by which our children grow and live! Return these children, dearest mother, to the path of aspiration, determination, courage and good and honourable Deeds…

Zaid (RadhiAllahu Anhu) was the freed slave of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), who was treated as a blood son. After some time his parents came to Madina Sharief and asked for his return. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “Zaid is no longer my slave. He is free. He may go wherever he wishes. I would be happy if he were united with his family.” Zaid showed a different aspiration. He said to his parents: “I love you very much, but I love Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) more than anything in the world. I cannot leave Him!” Nothing could persuade him to leave the love and care, and most of all, the lofty example set before him by the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam).

The daughter of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), Fathimah (RadhiAllahu Anha) showed such fortitude when Uqbah (a chief of the Quraish) placed the camel’s intestines on the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam’s) back during Sajdah. She rebuked them for their cruel act. She cried and consoled her father. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) reminded her, “ALLAH is the best Protector.” This young lady was known as the “Queen of the virtuous women of Paradise.”

Yusuf (Alaihis Salaam) was a perfect example of patience and determination. He was tested by the jealousy of his brothers and was unrelenting. When in the home of the minister of Egypt, Yusuf (Alaihis Salaam) was again tested by the minister’s wife, Zuleikha. He possessed such honour and dignity that he refused to act upon her suggestions. He would rather go to jail then submit to her wishes!

Asma (RadhiAllahu Anha), the sister of Aa’ishah (RadhiAllahu Anha) took of the needs of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) and Abu Bakr (Radhiyallahu Anhu) when they were in the Cave of Thawr during hijrah. She braved all odds and travelled a long distance to take provisions. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) heard of her generosity in tying their provisions with the only two belts she had. He (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ALLAH has accepted your gift and shall reward you in Paradise with two indescribably beautiful belts.” She was honoured with the title of “Lady with two belts.”

Ali ibn Abi Thalib (RadhiAllahu Anhu) was a young man in the company of the Quraish. One night after the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) invited them to Deen everyone was silent. No one said a word accept Ali (RadhiAllahu Anhu). He said: “Brother, though I have been ill, I will support you. My eyes ache and my legs are lean and weak. I am the youngest of you all, but I will follow You, Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), and I say: “Laa Ilaha Illallaah.”

Dearest sister, what makes these youth possess such aspiration? By ALLAH we have to teach our children to be people of himmah and to sit with the people of himmah. Encourage them to serve this Deen, to do so with the Imaan, courage, dertermination and fortitude that has not been seen in this day and age. Advice them, if they are in situation that require firm faith, to be faithful to ALLAH TA’ALA. Proof of this faith is: “If anyone is going to hang you (for your devotion of ALLAH), then ask them to hang you from the highest place.” Foster this himmah, dearest sister, in our most valuable legacy – our children – whose mark of distinction will be “calling towards righteousness and forbidding evil.” In’Shaa’ALLAH!

May ALLAH TA’ALA bestow us with aspiration and courage that will inspire our children and progeny and the ability to appreciate our beautiful Deen. Aameen!!!

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

Love Personified – A Mothers Gift To Her Daughter

It was a sunday evening I stood by my bedroom window admiring the golden rays of a beautiful sunset, Subhaan-ALLAH! Tears began streaming down my face as I turned the pages of my life. How I wish my beloved mom was here to enjoy this breath-taking view with me. Al-Hamdulillah! A mother who was my best teacher, my root and my foundation. She planted the seed that I base my life on, and molded me into the woman that I am today.

“A Mother’s lap is the child’s first school as well as fostering institution: and the lessons learnt from this institution are more indelible than a line carved on a rock.”

She was very kind, soft-hearted, warm, loving and compassionate towards ladies of all races those she knew and to those she never knew. One beautiful quality of her’s that really touched hearts was, she always put people’s needs before her very own. I lost this precious soul the year I completed my qadhaa fast. It was one of the saddest and emotional year for me and my family. She was diagnosed with kidney problem which led her to go on dialysis, a treatment that lasted only six months.

Within those six months there were days of painful moments. I watched her condition deteriorate so rapidly… I would turn away to try and hide the tears that welled up involuntarily. After regaining my composure I would turn back giving her the assurance that she will be fine by the Mercy of ALLAH TA’ALA. Her last moments deeply crushed me… her dialysis rejected. Her blood pressure was high and a severe throbbing headache led to the bursting of a nerve in her brain. What was so heart wrenching with all that excruciating pain she never complained, but, instead she clasped my hands never to let go…

It was only by the Mercy of ALLAH that HE took her away. Four years since her demise I miss her so dearly; her warm smile, her therapeutic hugs, her motherly advice, her strong shoulder to cry on and her unconditional love. I realized mothers are the greatest embodiment of love. Today, I keep her action metre running by doing deeds that will earn her Thawaab-e-Jaariyah in the Aakhirah. And I make constant Du’a that ALLAH forgives her and grant her the highest stages in Jannah, In’Shaa’ALLAH! I firmly believe whatever decision ALLAH makes is in accordance to HIS wisdom and knowledge, and to accept it without questioning. I humbly thank my beautiful and loving ALLAH for blessing me with an ‘amazing’ mother. And, Al-Hamdulillah, she left behind a beautiful legacy. Each year I accept life without her presence and find comfort in the remembrance of my Beloved Creator, HE gives me a reason to smile.

The one thing I appreciate most in my life is the blessing of a dear mother who has loved, supported and cared for me throughout the course of my life. There is nothing in this world quite like a mother’s unconditional love – she helped me grow with the warmth of her radiant love, she gave me hope and showed me faith that I may be able to do for others as she did for me. I do not think I will ever be able to put into words the depth of my gratitude and love for my mother but this is one of my attempts to do so. I am forever thankful and appreciative of the blessing of a wonderful and loving mother. I love her as the trees love water and sunshine – she helped me grow, prosper, and reach great heights.

Beloved Reader! If you still have this precious soul in your life, thank ALLAH for giving you this opportunity to be with her and take pleasure in her affection. Acknowledge this blessing and do your best for this beautiful soul.
Because if she is gone ……….don’t regret!!!

“There is no difference between flowers and a mother, both are very delicate extremely beautiful creations of Almighty ALLAH.”

Dedicated to my loving Mother ♥

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

‎​مــــن روآئع عآئض القرني From The Excellent Words Of Aa’idh Qarni

عَسى تَأخيرك عَنْ سَفر ” خَيـر”
It is highly possible that you being delayed from a journey is better for you

و عَسى حِرمآنك مِنْ زَوآج “بَركة”
And it is highly possible that you being deprived of marriage is a blessing

و عَسى طّلآقّك منّ زوجك “راحة”
And its highly possible that your divorce from your spouse is ease

و عَسى رَدك عَن وَظيفة “مَصلحة”
And it is highly possible that you being refused a position is in your best interest

و عَسى تَأخرك و حِرمآنك مِنْ طِفل “خَير”
And it is highly possible that a delay in having a child or being deprived from one is for the best

{وَعَسَى أَنْ تَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُمْ وَعَسَى أَنْ تُحِبُّوا شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَكُمْ وَاللَّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنْتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ.}
And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. ALLAH knows but you do not know (Aayah 216 Al-Baqarah)

لأنّه يَعلمْ و أنت لا تَعلمْ ..
Because HE knows and you do not know

فَلآ تتضآيق لأي شَيء يحدُث لك لأنه بإذن الله خَير ..
So do not be angry and annoyed for anything which happens to you because by the permission of ALLAH, it is best for you
يُقآل ..
It is said
لا تكثر من الشكوَى فَيأتِيك الهمّ ،
Do not complain excessively, as worries will come your way

ولكِـن ؛
But
آكْثِر من الحمدُلِلـَّه تأتيك آلسعَآدة “
Increase praising ALLAH, and good fortune will come your way

آلحَمدلله ، ثم آلحمدلله ، ثم آلحمدلله
All praise is for ALLAH, and all praise is for ALLAH, and then all praise is for ALLAH

حتىَ يبلغ آلحمد : منتهآه !
Until the praise reaches its limit

و آلحمد لله حتى ترّضى ، و الحمدلله إذا رضيتّ , والحمدلله بعد الرضى ..
And all praise is for ALLAH until You ALLAH are pleased, and all praise is for ALLAH when YOU ALLAH become pleased, and all praise is for ALLAH after ALLAH is pleased

ولك آلحمد على كل حآل
And all praise is for YOU ALLAH in every condition.

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

Our Desire To Be Women Of Paradise

Any woman who truly desires to be a pious wife should acknowledge the women Companions of our beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). Then sincerely study the practices and achievements of these early pious women and strive to emulate their beautiful qualities and noble characteristics.

Beloved Sisters! Our beloved Creator ALLAH has granted a special place to woman and blessed her with such features and beautiful virtues which are the key to happiness and peace in life. Let us strive to be devoted and obedient to ALLAH, through patience, charity and self-sacrifice as they were. We know that behind Ali (RadhiAllahu Anhu) was Fathima bint Muhammad, behind Az Zubair (RadhiAllahu Anhu) stood Asma bint Abu Bakr and behind Abu Talha (RadhiAllahu Anhu) stood Umm Sulaym. In addition, we should look at Aasiyah wife of Fir’oun, Bilqees Queen of Sheba and Maryam mother of Isa (Alaihis Sallam). There are no better women than the Mothers of the believers: Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, Aa’ishah As-Siddiqah and Umm Salamah to name a few. They were pure and virtuous women of Islam who were honoured during the very lifetime of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) with the prediction that they would live forever in Jannah in the Hereafter.

ALLAH TA’ALA also expresses HIS Pleasure with the first Muslims, men and women, as well as HIS Pleasure with those who follow them exactly and completely. ALLAH says, “And the first to embrace Islam of the Muhajirun and the Ansaar and also those who follow them exactly (in faith). ALLAH is well-pleased with them and they are well-pleased with HIM. HE has prepared for them Gardens under which rivers flow (i.e. Jannah), to dwell therein forever. This is the supreme success.” [Surah 9:100]

Beloved Sisters! The behaviour and the beautiful actions of the women companions were witnessed by ALLAH and HE was so pleased, that HE said that Jannah had been prepared for them as well as for whoever stays steadfast to their duty to ALLAH in the same manner.

Most beloved, honourable and respected sisters, an effort is certainly required for the betterment of one’s Deen and Aakhirah. One can only be certain of the acceptability of her actions and ALLAH’S pleasure with them if they conform to the example set by the women companions. As ALLAH TA’ALA says, “ALLAH is well-pleased with them…”

So we ask, “How can I become a pious wife?”

Looking Within…

• I do my best to please my husband

• I emulate the Islaamic lifestyle

• I enjoy reading the Qur’aan and Hadith

• I teach my children about Deen

• I try to maintain beauty for my husband

• I help my children find answers to questions about Deen

• I seek knowledge constantly and I act upon what I learn

• I offer my Salaah on time

• I tell my husband I love him

• I advise my husband when needed with sound Islamic advise

• I offer my husband encouragement and support in achieving his goals (within Shari’ah)

• I show my husband I appreciate his efforts

• I guard my modesty in public

• I offer Nafil Salaah as well

• I fast the month of Ramadaan and make up the days that I miss

• I offer Salaah at night when others are asleep

A woman must maintain her role as a mother. It is through her example that her children will adhere to the beautiful teachings. The family home is a microcosm of society in which children’s mentality, intellect, attitudes and inclinations are formed when they are still very small and are ready to receive sound words of guidance.

It is not easy to fulfill ALLAH’S requirements consistently. However, we have the tools to succeed, we must fill our hearts with determination and live to please ALLAH TA’ALA above anything else.

Remember, everything that we experience was intended by ALLAH. “Your wealth and your children are only a trial, whereas with ALLAH is a great reward.” [Surah 64:15]
HE has promised us that HE will not cause us to endure any hardship that is beyond our means.

Ponder upon this Hadith that so beautifully encapsulates: Anas (RadhiAllahu Anhu) reports that the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “Should I not tell you about the woman who would enter Paradise?” We requested Him to describe her. To this He replied: “She is the one devoted fully to her husband, and who gives birth to a large number of children. When her husband is angry with her or scolds her, she placates him, assuring him of her total help and support, saying that she would not sleep until he forgives her.” [Targhib 3, 37]

The above Hadith spells out some features of the virtuous women, Subhaan-ALLAH! O my believing sisters in Deen, if we lead a pious life we can make ourselves worthy of entry into Paradise, In’Shaa’ALLAH!

“It is in the chastity of soul, chastity of tongue, chastity of hand, chastity of heart & chastity of imagination. All are degrees of beauty.”

May ALLAH TA’ALA keep us away from such Deeds which incur punishment and guide us to such Deeds which facilitate us entry into Jannah, Aameen!

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

18 Sources of Barakah

I’m a firm Believer that Barakah is not a lost treasure, rather, it’s right in front of our eyes! This treasure is only available and ready to be handed over to the one who works for it. Below, I list some of the sources of Barakah. It’s not an exhaustive list, therefore, I do hope you can contribute to it with your comments In’Shaa’ALLAH so we can all share and extend our understanding of this great treasure at ProductiveMuslim.com!

1. Good Intentions

If you want something to have Barakah attached to it, have good intentions for it. More specifically, make sure that deed is intended for the sake of ALLAH (Subhaanahu Wa Ta’ala). Looking again at the definition of Barakah, you may guess that without us intending what we have or do for the Sake of ALLAH, the “Divine goodness” won’t be found in our deeds.

2. Piety and Belief in ALLAH

ALLAH says in the Qur’aan:  “If the people of the towns had but believed and feared ALLAH, We should indeed have opened out to them (All kinds of) blessings from heaven and earth…”(Surah Al-A’raf, Verse 96). And HE says in the Qur’aan: “And for those who fear ALLAH, HE (ever) prepares a way out. And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine” (Surah Al-Talaq, Verses 2-3)

3. Putting your trust in ALLAH

ALLAH says in the Qur’aan: “And if any one puts his trust in ALLAH, sufficient is (ALLAH) for him. For ALLAH will surely accomplish his purpose. Verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion” (Surah Al-Talaq, Verse 3)

Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “If only you relied on ALLAH a true reliance, HE would provide sustenance for you just as HE does the birds: They fly out in the morning empty and return in the afternoon with full stomachs. (Ahmad, An-Nasa’I, Ibn Majah, Al-Hakim and At-Tirmidhi)

4. Reading Qur’aan

This is the fountain of Barakah! But Subhaan-ALLAH, we rarely drink from it! ALLAH says in the Qur’aan: “And this is a Book which We have sent down, bringing blessings, and confirming (the revelations) which came before it…” (Surah Al-An’am, Verse 92). So read the Qur’aan, and observe the Blessings and Barakah of ALLAH enter your life. The further we are from this Book of Guidance, the less Barakah we will have in our lives.

5. Saying Bismillah

When you say “Bismillah” before anything you do, you’re invoking the Name of ALLAH on that activity; not only will that activity be blessed but Shaitaan cannot take part in it! So always say “Bismillah” before anything you do! Subhaan-ALLAH, it’s easy for us to forget to say “Bismillah”. Sometimes we’re so used to saying it that we cannot remember whether we said it or not! Try to be conscious of saying “Bismillah” and understand what you’re saying before your action is performed.

6. Eating with People

Anyone who has had the experience of inviting guests to his/her house will know this one. No matter how little you think the food you’re presenting to your guest is, it’s always more than enough! (Note: this is not an excuse to be miserly when you invite guests over; in fact we should follow the Sunnah of our Prophet Ibrahim (Alaihis Salaam) whom when visited by the angels prepared a large meal for them). What I’m referring to here is the blessing that occurs when eating together, confirmed in the Hadith of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) who said: “Eat together, for blessing is in Jamma’a (congregation or being together)…” and in another Hadith:“Whoever has food enough for two persons, should take a third one, and whoever has food enough for four persons, should take a fifth or a sixth (or said something similar).” (Bukhari, Volume 4. Book 56. Number 781)

7. Honesty in Trade

This is for all of the business people out there (include ebayers!). We shouldn’t assume lying and deceiving people will make our trade profitable. On the contrary, it will remove the blessing from your trade. Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “The buyer and the seller have the option of canceling or confirming the bargain unless they separate, and if they spoke the truth and made clear the defects of the goods, then they would be blessed in their bargain, and if they told lies and hid some facts, their bargain would be deprived of ALLAH’S blessings.” (Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 34, Number 293)

Yes, it’s difficult to be honest when you’re trying to sell something, but trust me it’s worth it.

8. Du’a

Ask ALLAH for Barakah! If you take note of some of the Du’as of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) you’ll notice that the Prophet used to make Du’a for Barakah. We always say: “May ALLAH bless you!” Well, guess what? That’s a source of Barakah! Also, when you’re invited to someone’s house, Prophet Muhammad advised us to make the following Du’a for the host: “O ALLAH, bless for them, that which You have provided them, forgive them and have mercy upon them.”

9. Halaal Income/money

Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “O people, ALLAH is good and He therefore, accepts only that which is good” (Scholars say this refers to Halaal income and the importance of it)

A scholar also said of the one who eats Haraam, that his limbs will disobey ALLAH whether he likes it or not, and that the one who eats Halaal and seeks Halaal income, his limbs will also do good and will be given the permission to seek goodness.

This concept of your limbs being ‘blessed’ and enabled to do good is truly a blessing and a Barakah we should all seek. It reminds me of a story of an old man who jumped a large distance that the young men were unable to jump. When the young men asked the old man how he did it, he replied: “These are our limbs: we protected them from committing sins when we were young, so ALLAH preserved them for us when we got old.”

10. Following the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) in everything

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the most Productive Man in the history of humanity is our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). Therefore, by simply following His lifestyle and the acts of Sunnah we so often hear about, we obtain a great source of Barakah!

Some of these Sunnah include: eating Suhoor, eating with the right hand from the side of the plate, going out for Eid Salaah, licking your fingers after finishing your meal, sleeping on your right hand side, using the siwaak, and many more. Look out for these Sunnah and follow them, for imitating the life of the most blessed man on earth is surely a source of blessing!

11. Praying Istikharah

Praying Istikharah in all matters and then leaving the outcome to ALLAH as well as accepting His Decree is a great source of Barakah. The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) taught us this beautiful Du’a which helps us make decisions and not regret the choices we make in the following Hadith:

On the authority of Jaabir Ibn ‘Abdullah he said: “The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) would instruct us to pray for guidance in all of our concerns, just as he would teach us a chapter from the Qur’aan. He (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) would say: ‘If any of you intends to undertake a matter then let him pray two supererogatory units (two rak’ah optional nafil) of prayer and after which he should supplicate:

“O ALLAH, I seek YOUR counsel by YOUR knowledge and by YOUR power I seek strength and I ask YOU from YOUR immense favour, for verily YOU are able while I am not and verily YOU know while I do not and YOU are the Knower of the unseen. O ALLAH, if YOU know this affair – and here he mentions his need – to be good for me in relation to my religion, my life, and end, then decree and facilitate it for me, and bless me with it, and if YOU know this affair to be ill for me towards my religion, my life, and end, then remove it from me and remove me from it, and decree for me what is good wherever it be and make me satisfied with such.”

One who seeks guidance from his Creator and consults his fellow believers and then remains firm in his resolve does not regret for ALLAH has said:

“…and consult them in the affair. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in ALLAH…” (Qur’aan 3:159)

12. Giving thanks to ALLAH in abundance

ALLAH says in the Qur’aan: “If ye are grateful, I will add more (favours) unto you”. A scholar once told me that if one looks into this verse, the Arabic word that is used to confirm that ALLAH Wills favours unto the person who thanks HIM is actually in the form of an Oath – “La Adhidannakum”. So ALLAH is promising the person who thanks HIM an increase in goodness and blessings, and ALLAH never breaks HIS promises.

13. Charity

In a Hadith Qudsi, ALLAH says: “O son of Adam, spend (in charity), and I’ll spend on you!” Whenever you are broke, or you feel Barakah is zapped out of your life and urgently need it to return, the quickest of way of gaining Barakah in your life can be through giving charity. For example, let’s say Barakah was removed from your life due to a sin you committed; charity cleanses your sins, adds good deeds and is a source of Barakah.

I cannot describe the instantaneous gratification of giving charity and the Barakah that follows it. Try it NOW!

14. Tying your ties of kinship

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RadhiAllahu Anhu): The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, “ALLAH created HIS creation, and when HE had finished it, the womb, got up and caught hold of ALLAH whereupon ALLAH said, “What is the matter?’ On that, it said, “I seek refuge with you from those who sever the ties of Kith and kin.” On that ALLAH said, “Will you be satisfied if I bestow MY favours on him who keeps your ties, and withhold MY favours from him who severs your ties?” On that it said, “Yes, O my Lord!” Then ALLAH said, “That is for you.” Abu Hurairah (RadhiAllahu anhu) added: “If you wish, you can recite: ‘Would you then if you were given the authority do mischief in the land and sever your ties of kinship?” (Bukhari, Volume 6. Book 60. Number 354)

15. Waking up early

Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ALLAH made the early hours blessed for my Ummah.” (Ahmad)

This Hadith was what spurred me to create ProductiveMuslim.com! Such gems of productivity are the sources of blessings which we should seek to make our life productive. Waking up early is such an important step to being blessed and feeling good throughout your day.

Try to wake up for Tahajjud, and then work during the hours before Fajr Salaah. If you cannot, then at least wake up for Fajr and stay up till sunrise before you return to sleep. Those hours are filled with Barakah. If you’re able to go to work in those hours, do so, you’ll get much more work done than the whole day put together!

16. Marriage

ALLAH says in the Qur’aan: “Marry those among you who are single, or the virtuous ones among yourselves, male or female: if they are in poverty, ALLAH will give them means out of HIS Grace: for ALLAH encompasseth all, and He Knoweth all things.” (Qur’aan 24:32)

17. Salaah

ALLAH says in the Qur’aan: “Enjoin prayer on thy people, and be constant therein. We ask thee not to provide sustenance: We provide it for thee. But the (fruit of) the Hereafter is for righteousness”. To illustrate the point of Salaah further, just imagine your life without this great act of Ibaadah. Where would Barakah come from? For those of you who are still wavering in your Salaah, please get back on track; this is your lifeline for the final destination in the Hereafter, and the daily food for your soul.

18. Asking ALLAH for forgiveness

The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “If anyone continually asks forgiveness from ALLAH, ALLAH will appoint for him a way out of every distress, and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide for him from where he did not reckon.”

I hope this covers most of the sources of Barakah, but as I said before, this is not an exhaustive list. Please add your sources and recommend more tips for us to share!

 
Source: ProductiveMuslim

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Make Time To Enjoy Your Children – Those unique creations on loan to you from ALLAH TA’ALA

I was reading an article on child abuse and heard of the cot death of a longed-for much loved baby that sent shock-waves… which deeply saddened me. Two starkly contrasting examples of parents. Those who, for whatever reason, do not value their children, regarding them as nuisance, burdens… even wicked (one child had his hand put in boiling water for “stealing” some cheese from the refrigerator!). And those who value them so much that to punish them physically, even when they’re at their most exasperating, would be unthinkable, who suffer in empathy when they’re injured, and to whom a child’s death brings everlasting grief.

Children are most precious gifts from ALLAH TA’ALA – a sacred trust over whose eternal souls parents are given temporary guardianship. Yet, how thoughtlessly some people view that guardianship. A child is conceived carelessly, is received with mixed feelings, is sandwich between other activities, is spoken to without respect for feelings, even shouted at in public, and criticized from morning to night.

Most will agree that, despite the fatigue, ongoing thought and work needed to rear children, they are our greatest treasures, a source of great joy and delight, they make life sweet, bring more rizq (sustenance) into family’s life and give hope. Through our children – clever or slow, fit or handicapped – new realms of love, interest and advantage unfold. We learn patience, unselfishness, responsibility, understanding – and to have fun. For, given the chance, their quaint remarks or innocent laughter tinge moments of despair with delight.

Children aren’t born to love you, but they soon learn to respond to love. They hold out their arms to greet you, their faces light up when you appear, forgive you readily for your mistakes, spend hours planning little surprises or drawings for you, grieve when you go away. What an investment!

They need deep love and sincere affection in order to develop soundly, with no psychological problems, crises or complexes. This sound upbringing will fill them with optimism, trust, hope and ambition. Thus their self-esteem is gleaned from this and it gives them confidence and security. Be compassionate towards them, for compassion is a basic Islamic characteristic, one that was encouraged by our beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) in words and deeds as Anas (RadhiAllahu Anhu) tells us, a Hadith so beautifully encapsulates:

“I never saw anyone who has more compassion towards children than the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam). His son Ibrahim was in the care of a wet-nurse in the hills around Madinah Sharief. He would go there, and we would go with him, he would enter the house, pick up His son and kiss him, then come back.” [Muslim]

Children reflect their home life, for they learn what they live. If they see their parents making sacrifices for others, they absorb the unspoken message – kind people do kind things. Love and trust beget love and trust, and usually children respond to both. To young couples I say: children are a blessing from Almighty ALLAH. When you both really want a baby, prepare for parenthood sensibly. If you’ve had a happy childhood, you’ll be able to fall back on common-sense and intuition. If not, ask, read books on parenting, attend parenthood course.

If you are a working mom don’t go to work in your children’s early years. You can save money by staying home and spare yourself stress and conflict by being there when your children need you. As a queen of your home, you can plan a routine that snatches an hour here or there for a hobby, reading or outside activity. Watching your children develop is a fascinating privilege. Enjoy this short phase of your life.

Make the bedtime routine a happy end to the day. Never “order” little ones to bed. Accompany them, read them Islamic stories, talk to them in a gentle manner, make Du’a with them and give them a warm hug to send them off to sleep happily. Contemplate the moral and spiritual values you wish to pass on – how best to express your highest beliefs so that they’ll be caught, not just taught. Give freely of that priceless gift – your time. Time to listen so they’ll confide in you. Time simply to enjoy those unique creations on loan to you from ALLAH TA’ALA.

May we learn to appreciate our children, for, they fill a special place in our hearts we never knew was empty. AAMEEN!

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A True Friend – نشيد صديقي

No one Loves you more than your beautiful Creator

Created you with love, wanting to see you smile

Ready to share your pain, Helping you go further

You take a step towards HIM, HE will run to you a mile

You give HIM a share of your love, HE will give you more

If you trapped in darkness, HE will Shower you with light

No one understands you more than your Glorious Lord

When no one wants to listen, HE will listen to you

When no one wants to know, HE will be your Friend

Don’t ever think you’re alone, HE is always with you

Don’t ever be afraid, HE will give you Sustenance

The Beauty of HIS Mercy and Compassion bestowed upon you

It is all part of HIS signs to show HIS Love for you

Who will then reject HIS Love? Reject HIS Companionship?

Truly they will be unsuccessful in this world and in the Hereafter

Don’t throw away the Benevolence of HIS Love

Don’t leave the only True Friend you have

Because ALLAH loves you more than anybody does

Say: O ‘IBADI WHO HAVE TRANSGRESSED AGAINST THEMSELVES!

Despair not of the Mercy of ALLAH, verily, ALLAH forgives all sins.

Truly HE is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful

Qur’aan: 39 : 53

By لمشاري العرادة

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Beauty Of A Muslim Woman

Hijaab is her honour and dignity.

She is patient through perseverence.

Home is her dwelling for peace and contentment.

She finds comfort in her five daily Salaah.

Remembrance of ALLAH TA’ALA is her pillar of strength.

She has been raised to the highest of ranks of being a pious woman.

Deen is her weapon.

She finds happiness and tranquility by reciting the beautiful Qur’aan Sharief.

Family is her love and support.

She pleases ALLAH TA’ALA by following the Sunnah of HIS beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam).

Love, kindness and compassion defines her character.

She has been given the honour of being a mother and Jannah lies under her feet.

Her beauty, modesty and chastity are like guarded gems behind her veil.

She believes in ALLAH TA’ALA and the last day; obeys HIS command and heeds HIS prohibition.

She develops a balanced, likeable character, one that is attractive both in appearance and in her thinking, reasoning, behaviour and reactions.

She polishes her soul through worship and Dhikr. Her guideline in all of this is to maintain a precise balance between all aspects of her personality.

She treats her parents with kindness, respect and surrounds them with every type of care, honour and respect.

She is an ideal wife, intelligent, respectful, obedient, tolerant and loving, eager to please him and to respect and honour his family.

With her friends and sisters in Islam, she is distinguished from other women by way in which she builds her relationship with them on a basis of love for the sake of ALLAH TA’ALA.

From the rich spring of Islam she derives her customs, habits and behaviour and the ethics and value which purify her soul and form her distinct social character.

She is of good character (has a good attitude towards others) and is sincere and straightforward with all people.

She chooses work that suits her feminine nature.

She enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil.

She measures her habits and customs against the standards of Islam.

And she upholds the flag of Islam with these fine qualities which has a sound concept of life, the universe and humanity, and a deep awareness of her important role.

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