Steadfastness In Deen

Islam with it’s beauty, purity and eloquence teaches us to lead a life of simplicity and how to require steadfastness. Steadfastness is a basic requirement for every sincere Mu’min who wants to follow the Straight Path with determination and understanding.

Today the Muslim Ummah faces a similar struggle to hold onto Islam due to the desires and temptations they are engulfed with, as well as the West openly attacking Islam and without any fear or opposition to their attacks they are distorting the image of Islam by associating it with violence, backwardness, oppression and so on. Thus, causing Islam to become something strange to the hearts and minds of many Muslims; the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said that there would come a time when:

“He who adheres to Islam will be like he who is holding a burning coal.”

Therefore, Muslims of today are in greater need of having means that aid them to remain steadfast in Islam than the Salaf did, and that the effort required to achieve steadfastness in these times is greater; this is due to the corruption of our times, and the weakness of Imaan. The high increase in the number of cases of Riddah, even among those who work for the sake of Islam, which terrifies all Muslims and makes them strive even harder to seek these means.

Steadfastness is one of the Deeds of the heart, which makes it all the more difficult to perform, as the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said:

“The qalb (heart) of the son of Aadam fluctuates more easily than a pot containing boiling water can turn over.” [Ahmad & Al-Haakim]

The heart is like a feather that flips whenever the wind blows and changes from one position to another rapidly. Maintaining a steadfast heart in the face of the winds of desires and doubts requires means that are equivalent to the level of challenge.

It is part of ALLAH’S Mercy towards us that HE clarified to us, in HIS Book and through the words and life of HIS Beloved Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) many means to remain steadfast in Islam:

Turning Towards The Qur’aan

The Qur’aan is a clear light of ALLAH and the book of guidance for a Muslim’s life. Whoever adheres to it, Almighty ALLAH will protect him; whoever follows it, ALLAH will save him; and whoever practice upon it’s beautiful teachings will be guided to the Straight Path, Subhaan-ALLAH!

ALLAH has stated that the reason why this Book Al-Qur’aan was revealed in stages was to help the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) to stand firm in His faith. In proving false doubt of the Kuffaar, He says, “And those who disbelieve say, ‘Why is not the Qur’aan revealed to him all at once?’ Thus (it is sent down in parts), that We may strengthen your heart thereby. And We have revealed it to you gradually, in stages. And no example to similitude do they bring (to oppose or to find fault in you or in this Qur’aan), but We reveal to you the truth (against that similitude or example), and the better explanation thereof.” [Al-Furqaan 25: 32-33]

Why is the Qur’aan such a source of strength?

1.  It instils faith in the heart, cleanses and purifies the soul by connecting it to ALLAH.

2.  It brings peace and tranquility to the heart of the believer, so he will not be tossed about by the winds of Fitnah; his heart will be content and enriched with the remembrance of ALLAH.

3.  It provides the Believer with the correct principles by which he can face the tough circumstances that he endures, as well as providing him with the appropriate criterion with which to weigh and judge matters.

4.  It refutes the false claims and suspicions that are stirred up by the enemies of Islaam and the hypocrites.

“The effect of the Aayah “… The tongue of the man they refer is foreign, while this (Qur’aan) is a clear Arabic tongue” [al-Nahl 16:103]. The Quraish claimed that Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) was taught by a human being and that He took the Qur’aan from a Roman carpenter in Makkah.”

Is the Qur’aan not the greatest source of help, strengthening the qalb (heart) of the Believer, removing doubts and silencing the voices of falsehood? Indeed, it is by ALLAH!

Beloved Reader! Be steadfast and upright upon the Deen of ALLAH at all times, for you do not know when you’ll meet the Angel of Death. Beware of him taking you while you are in a state of sin.

“O ALLAH! Who turns the hearts, keep our hearts steadfast upon YOUR Deen.” [Aameen]

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Suffering From A Broken Heart

If you are suffering from broken heart syndrome give this a read. May ALLAH soothe your bruised hearts and may HIS remembrance comfort you and may HE bless you with someone who deserves a precious pearl like you, Aameen Thumma Aameen.

Love is a powerful, compelling emotion. It can make you laugh and it can make you cry. It can lift you up to the clouds and it can hurl you into an abyss. One of the dilemmas Muslims face, especially Muslim sisters, is the situation in which they get to know a prospective spouse and for some reason it does not work out.

This article is not discussing the fiqh behind getting to know your prospective spouse, as it is common for a couple to have a few “halaal” meetings and still fall deeply in love. Rather, this article deals with how to get over someone and moving on after the falling in love stage. After you have decided that this person is the one for you and then due to circumstances – be it parents, finances, etc., the two of you cannot get married. In’Shaa’ALLAH this article will be a guide on how to get over that person and move on with your life.

Step 1: Accepting ALLAH’S Qadr

This has got to be one of the toughest tests of qadr. Love muddles your mind and when all you see are the good characteristics of someone it is difficult to see why it is not working out, especially if this is your first real love. How can this brother who is practicing his Deen, has a nice beard, soft and caring be wrong for me? How can this sister who is attractive, fun and religious not be my perfect partner?

The key concept to remember here is: you do not know someone until you have lived with them for a substantial time. Even that person does not know what they are like and how they will react in certain situations. Just because you have these elated feelings of love does not necessarily mean this is the right person. Marriage is a struggle and people develop themselves and change with the experience. Only ALLAH knows your compatibility, only ALLAH knows what situations you will face and your reactions. Only ALLAH knows whether or not this marriage will bring you closer to HIM or distract you from the real purpose in life. It is only ALLAH who knows. Have trust in ALLAH that HE has made the right choice for you. For no matter how much this person claims their love for you or vice versa, know that no one can love you as much as ALLAH.

So firstly, make Du’a to ALLAH to ease your pain and help you be content with HIS qadr. The following is my favorite Hadith regarding qadr as it really fills you with the awe of ALLAH and HIS infinite wisdom.

“ALLAH TA’ALA said: ‘Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by being inflicted with poverty, and were I to enrich him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by wealth and affluence, and were I to deprive him, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by good health, and were I to make him sick, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he whose faith cannot be rectified except by disease and illness, and were I to make him healthy, it would surely corrupt him. Verily, from amongst MY slaves is he who seeks worship by a certain act but I prevent that from him so that self-amazement does not enter his heart. Certainly, I run the affairs of MY slaves by MY Knowledge of what is in their hearts. Certainly, I am the All-Knower, All-Aware’.” [Tabaraani]

Step 2: Awareness of the love-drug syndrome

An interesting study was conducted comparing drug users to people who claimed to be “madly in love”. They found that brain scans showed people who are in the first stages of love and people who are high on cocaine have the same areas of the brain stimulated while looking at a picture of their “beloved”. In other words, being in the first stage of love is similar to being high on drugs! With drugs, you are not in love with the powder itself – you are in love with the feelings that it gives you.

Similarly, the thing that we love is the special attention, the butterflies in the stomach, the acknowledgment that someone cares about us in a special way, looks at us in a special way, thinks about us in a special way – the constant day dreaming about the future and daily scenarios. So it is not that this person is perfect, it is that this person allows us to feel all these emotions which are addictive. In reality we are not in love with the person, we are in love with Love itself.

Being in love with Love explains how some people overlook major faults in their prospective spouse. I knew a practicing sister who wanted to marry someone who had a drug and alcohol problem. This was because in both cases these “faults” were discovered during the first butterfly phase of love and not before. Al-Hamdulillah by the qadr of ALLAH the marriage did not take place, but it was due to circumstances, not because the sister had realized that they were not a suited match.

Awareness of this love-drug syndrome has two major benefits. Firstly, awareness is power and it breeds hope. Once you are aware that it is the feelings you are attached to, realize you can actually get them elsewhere.

These feelings are not specific to this one person; you will get these feelings with your new, more suitable prospective partner – the one that ALLAH will put into your life at the right time In’Shaa’ALLAH. Love clouds your mind and makes you think that you will not find this strong love and passion with anyone else. But this is simply not true. You will find this love to be even stronger and more passionate with the right person (the one that is written for you in the Lawh al Mahfooz).

The second benefit is knowing that just like a drug-user naturally has withdrawal symptoms when they stop, you too will naturally have withdrawal symptoms, and it will be difficult. Getting over someone is emotionally painful so don’t be too hard on yourself, validate your feelings and allow yourself time to heal. Know that this is common – nearly everyone goes through heartache at some point in their lives, and eventually recover with time.

As a side point: It is not a sin to fall in love; it is a natural emotion which the human species depends on! If you did sin in the process then repent to ALLAH, HE is the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful. Love is a powerful emotion, which is why there are boundaries in Islam. If you have fallen outside those boundaries, repent and move on.

Step 3: Be Pro-active

Allow yourself time but also get proactive! Marriage is just one of the many aspects of your life; it is not the be all and end all of things. What are your aspirations? What do you want to achieve in your life? Write down a list of goals you want to achieve by the end of the month and get started on them right away. As Muslims, our continuous goal is striving to get closer to ALLAH, so working on your Imaan and your relationship with ALLAH must be included in some way. Focus your attention on moving forward rather than wasting time with something that “could have been”.

Step 4: Move on

In the spirit of being pro-active, the last stage is to actively open your heart and mind to someone else. This could be difficult, as naturally comparisons will creep in, but again realize the fact that it has not worked out means that ALLAH has someone better suited for you. As illustrated in the famous Hadith of the birds:

“If you depend on ALLAH with due reliance, HE would certainly give you provision as HE gives it the birds who go forth hungry in the morning and return with a full belly at dusk.” [At-Tirmidhi]

ALLAH will provide for you but you have to get up and get moving again. Just like the birds, go out and seek. Make the effort on your part and leave the rest to ALLAH and HIS infinite wisdom.

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~

Aspiring Towards Living The Legacy

Islam places responsibilities on the shoulders of every individual; no one person is left out. Parents – especially mothers – are made responsible for providing. Their children with a solid upbringing and sound Islamic education, based on the noble characteristics that the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) declared that He had been sent to complete and spread among people:

“I have only been sent to make righteous behaviour complete.”

O beloved sister in Islam! What prevent us from giving our beautiful children himmah, i.e. aspiration and determination to the Commandments of ALLAH? If we have himmah we are guaranteed success from ALLAH TA’ALA in this world and the Hereafter, Subhaan-ALLAH! What prevents us from teaching them to be the Ansaar of ALLAH TA’ALA, and knowing that love of the people of this Deen is from Imaan. And anyone who give victory to this Deen, love them. We do dearest sister! We are the examples by which our children grow and live! Return these children, dearest mother, to the path of aspiration, determination, courage and good and honourable Deeds…

Zaid (RadhiAllahu Anhu) was the freed slave of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), who was treated as a blood son. After some time his parents came to Madina Sharief and asked for his return. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “Zaid is no longer my slave. He is free. He may go wherever he wishes. I would be happy if he were united with his family.” Zaid showed a different aspiration. He said to his parents: “I love you very much, but I love Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) more than anything in the world. I cannot leave Him!” Nothing could persuade him to leave the love and care, and most of all, the lofty example set before him by the Messenger of ALLAH (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam).

The daughter of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), Fathimah (RadhiAllahu Anha) showed such fortitude when Uqbah (a chief of the Quraish) placed the camel’s intestines on the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam’s) back during Sajdah. She rebuked them for their cruel act. She cried and consoled her father. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) reminded her, “ALLAH is the best Protector.” This young lady was known as the “Queen of the virtuous women of Paradise.”

Yusuf (Alaihis Salaam) was a perfect example of patience and determination. He was tested by the jealousy of his brothers and was unrelenting. When in the home of the minister of Egypt, Yusuf (Alaihis Salaam) was again tested by the minister’s wife, Zuleikha. He possessed such honour and dignity that he refused to act upon her suggestions. He would rather go to jail then submit to her wishes!

Asma (RadhiAllahu Anha), the sister of Aa’ishah (RadhiAllahu Anha) took of the needs of the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) and Abu Bakr (Radhiyallahu Anhu) when they were in the Cave of Thawr during hijrah. She braved all odds and travelled a long distance to take provisions. The Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) heard of her generosity in tying their provisions with the only two belts she had. He (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) said: “ALLAH has accepted your gift and shall reward you in Paradise with two indescribably beautiful belts.” She was honoured with the title of “Lady with two belts.”

Ali ibn Abi Thalib (RadhiAllahu Anhu) was a young man in the company of the Quraish. One night after the Messenger (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam) invited them to Deen everyone was silent. No one said a word accept Ali (RadhiAllahu Anhu). He said: “Brother, though I have been ill, I will support you. My eyes ache and my legs are lean and weak. I am the youngest of you all, but I will follow You, Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam), and I say: “Laa Ilaha Illallaah.”

Dearest sister, what makes these youth possess such aspiration? By ALLAH we have to teach our children to be people of himmah and to sit with the people of himmah. Encourage them to serve this Deen, to do so with the Imaan, courage, dertermination and fortitude that has not been seen in this day and age. Advice them, if they are in situation that require firm faith, to be faithful to ALLAH TA’ALA. Proof of this faith is: “If anyone is going to hang you (for your devotion of ALLAH), then ask them to hang you from the highest place.” Foster this himmah, dearest sister, in our most valuable legacy – our children – whose mark of distinction will be “calling towards righteousness and forbidding evil.” In’Shaa’ALLAH!

May ALLAH TA’ALA bestow us with aspiration and courage that will inspire our children and progeny and the ability to appreciate our beautiful Deen. Aameen!!!

~The only lasting beauty is the beauty of the ♥~